Parenting

Talking to Your Children About School Shootings

In the wake of the tragic school shooting in Connecticut, parents all over the country may be wondering how to talk to their children about the news.

Kids are like little sponges, they take in much more than we realize and it's important to address any fears and concerns they may have. "Am I safe? Who would do such a thing? Why? Will it happen at my school? "

There are no easy answers. It's hard to explain how something so terrible could happen - especially when we're still trying to make sense of it ourselves.

So for parents who need some guidance, here are some basic tips from the National Mental Health Association:

1. Encourage children to express their concerns and talk about their feelings. Some may be hesitant to bring it up, so start the conversation by letting them know you are interested in how they are coping with the information they are getting.

2. Validate their feelings. Listen to what they are saying and don't interrupt. Don't minimize or dismiss their concerns.

3. Reassure children that they are safe. Stress that schools are not dangerous places. In fact, recent studies have shown that schools are more secure now than ever before.

4. Review safety procedures. Explain why visitors sign in at the school office or certain doors stay locked during the school day.

5. Create a safety plan. Help children develop their own action plan and identify at least one adult at school and in the community to whom they go if they feel threatened or at risk. Also ensure that your child knows how to reach you in case of an emergency during the school day.

 6. Watch your child for signs of distress. Parents should be alert to any signs of anxiety that might suggest that a child or teenager might need more assistance. Such indicators could be "a change in the child's school performance, changes in relationships with peers and teachers, excessive worry, school refusal, sleeplessness, nightmares, headaches or stomachaches, or loss of interest in activities that the child used to enjoy."

7. Don't be afraid to ask for help. If you are worried about your child’s reaction to the news or have concerns about his/her behavior or emotions, contact a mental health professional.

And last but not least...

Give your little one a hug. Tell your children how much you love them. And say a little prayer for the parents in Connecticut who won't be able to hug their children tonight. We are deeply saddened by their loss.